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Saturday, 30th September 2023

Pastor Jing Rong Chang

饶恕的生活形态

张静蓉牧师

In a relationship, forgiveness is the key, and there is not a day that we don’t need forgiveness, because in every day of our lives we will have some uncomfortable experiences in relationships, such as being offended, disrespected, hurt, etc. This can easily lead to criticism and resentment in the heart. When we choose not to forgive, it is actually very easy to let ourselves enter a dark situation, limit ourselves, and give control to our flesh or the person who hurt us. How can we live a forgiving life?

在关系的连结里，饶恕是关键，而我们没有一天不需要饶恕，因为我们在每一天的生活里都会有一些在关系里的被冒犯、不被尊重、受伤等不舒服的经历，而我们很容易因此带来批评论断，在心里产生怨气。当我们选择不饶恕的时候，其实是非常容易让自己进入一种黑暗的光景，让我们自己被局限，并且把控制权交给我们的肉体或者伤害我们的人。我们怎样才能够过一个饶恕的生活形态呢？

First, let us choose to let go and give up the right to retaliate.

第一、让我们选择原地放手, 放弃报复的权利

The verses in Romans 12:19 remind and help us that when we want to take revenge on those who have hurt us, we must learn to entrust it to God. God will handle it better than we can, and when we leave it to God, we won’t allow ourselves to live in darkness. The key to damaging relationships is not hurt, but an unwillingness to forgive because we hold on to other people’s sins and shortcomings and are unwilling to let go. A couple is a combination of two imperfect people. How can they move towards a journey of becoming one? Because of the willingness to forgive. If we hold on to each other’s hurts, debts, and offenses, we can actually destroy relationships. When we are willing to choose to forgive, God will first deal with us and change us, and we will receive wisdom from heaven. How do we know we have forgiven each other? When we can bless and help each other from the bottom of our hearts, it shows that we have produced the fruit of forgiveness. We can even see where others are hurt, and see that the other person is also a hurt person, and then we can sympathize with and sympathize with the other person. This is the true forgiveness within us. When we can bless those who hurt us, our lives are actually walking with love. When we choose to forgive, our lives are truly walking with God.

罗马书第12章19节的经文提醒、帮助我们，当我们很想报复那些伤害我们的人的时候，我们要学习交托给神，神处理的会比我们处理的更好，而且当我们交给神来处理的时候，我们就不会让自己活在黑暗当中。毁坏关系连结的关键不是伤害，而是不愿意饶恕，因为我们抓住别人的罪和亏欠不愿意放手。一对夫妻是两个不完美的人的结合，他们怎样能够走向一个磨合合一的旅程呢？因为愿意饶恕。我们如果紧抓对方的伤害、亏欠和冒犯的时候，其实会毁掉关系。当我们愿意选择饶恕的时候，神会先处理我们、改变我们，我们就会得到从天上而来的智慧。我们怎么知道自己已经饶恕对方了呢？就是当我们能够从心里祝福对方、成全对方的时候，表明我们已经结出了饶恕的果子，我们甚至能看到别人受伤的地方，看到对方也是受伤的人，就能够怜悯、体恤对方，这是我们里面真正的饶恕。当我们能够去祝福伤害我们的人的时候，其实我们的生命是与爱同行，当我们选择饶恕的时候，我们的生命是真正与神同行。

Second, forgiveness is an ongoing choice

第二、饶恕是持续不断的选择

Matthew 18:21-22 tells us that forgiveness does not require counting the wrongdoings of others, but it requires continuous repetition and continuous choice to forgive again and again. Sometimes some people are deeply hurt, and it cannot be dealt with in one go. In many cases, this is a process. Every time you think about someone’s evil to you, you choose to forgive again and again until you no longer feel pain, can feel release and freedom from your heart, and can even bless, help, and pity the other person.

马太福音第18章21-22节的经文告诉我们，饶恕是不用计算别人的恶，也不用计算次数，而是是持续不断的重复，不断的选择一次又一次的饶恕。有时候有一些人伤很深，不是一次就可以处理掉的，很多时候这是一个过程。每次想到某一个人对你的恶，你就一次又一次的选择饶恕，直到你不再感觉疼痛，能够从心里得到释放和自由，甚至能够祝福、成全、怜惜对方了。

Matthew 5:44-45 reveals to us that only the Son hears the voice of the Father and receives the life of the Father. He can know when to be a channel of grace, to be a blessing, because He is the Son of God. Luke 6:36-37 also teaches us again that only the Son knows that Heavenly Father is a merciful Father. Only the Son knows how to love His enemies and pray for those who persecute and hurt Him, because only the Son knows the voice of the Father. The Son of God came to earth to forgive us, and when we accept His grace and gift of forgiveness, we choose to forgive. Forgiveness is not a piece of knowledge or superficial effort, but a life that returns to the Father inwardly, hears the Father’s voice, and even becomes a channel of the Father’s love.

马太福音第5章44-45节启示我们，只有儿子才听到天父的声音，领受到天父的生命。他能够知道什么时候成为一个恩典的管道，成为一个祝福，因为他是天父的儿子。路加福音第6章36到37节也再次教导我们，只有儿子才认得天父是慈悲的天父，只有儿子才知道要爱仇敌，要为那些逼迫、伤害他的人祷告，因为只有儿子认得天父的声音。天父的儿子来到地上，赦免我们，当我们接受他饶恕的恩典和礼物的时候，就选择饶恕人。饶恕不是一个知识或者做表面功夫，而是一个生命，里面回到天父的面前，听到天父的声音，以至成为父神爱的管道。

A forgiving life form is to choose to live as a forgiven person, knowing that “I am a child of my Heavenly Father” and does not need to be controlled by anyone’s sin. Every day we receive the voice of mercy, love and release from Him in our hearts, so that we can become channels of Heavenly Father’s love and channels of the Lord Jesus’ forgiveness!

一个饶恕的生命形态就是选择以一个被饶恕者的身份来活，知道“我是天父的孩子”，不需要被任何一个人的罪所控制。我们每一天从他那里领受慈悲怜悯、爱和释放的声音临到们的心，让我们能够成为天父爱的管道，成为主耶稣赦免的管道！